There are some hurts from the past that we have left unattended to; either because we’re still in denial, or we were hurt so deeply we still believe it’ll take a magical surgery to mend us, or just that we have refused to face it – to accept that we are not as strong as we think we are, and that we will not be okay in the future if we don’t tend to it now.
I had some hurts like that which I refused to tend to, for fear of facing it. Fear of revisiting the wound, and even fear of letting go of that wound that unknowingly became a prison cell with a part of me as it’s prisoner. But without realising it, it began to affect my true personality, coloured my perspectives to some certain things and people, and twitched my character negatively.
Many times we lie to ourselves that our past and backgrounds do not matter. No, it actually does matter ONLY when we haven’t confronted our past because If we have, then yes our past doesn’t matter. It mattered so much to me because I don’t want to be another person I’m not and cannot recognize. I don’t want to go around splashing the effects of a wound nobody knows about on innocent people who have their own share of hurts too. I don’t want my spouse and kids to be hurt, because I didn’t do the needful. I need to heal, you need to heal, we need to heal, before we can be really okay and get on riding on the wings of true happiness.
How can we face our wounds and Heal?
How can we forget about the pain that comes with the remembrance of a past wound?
How can we stop feeling this feeling and start living without the prejudice that has resulted from our hurts?
How can we unfriend this selfish human motive of refusing to give up those wounds in order that we can somehow plan vengeance on someone, somewhere at the back of our minds?
Personally, I am No solution to myself and to you, too.
I could go on living and living for the next many years, choosing to carry the hurts and bruises of my past without living truly free and happy and getting to experience the best version of myself God designed me to be. I could get married to an amazing Man and build an amazing home but shatter it before my eyes and with my own hands because I chose not to heal. I could inflict pain on my kid’s and pass down my hurts down to them and so could it go on and on until someone chooses to face Healing. But I’ve decided I don’t want my life to be like this. That is why I have decided to face every healing that is needed. I want you to Heal too. I want us to Heal.
But dear reader, God is the only Healer. (Not any other person or things you can think of as a substitute).
I know, because only him could heal me in many areas I ‘opened’ up to him about. However, there are some areas I didn’t, because I chose not to face it. But until I face it and open up to God, he can’t Heal me and so I have decided to face it once and for all. Because guess what? He knows everything, He sees it all – inside and out, but he’s waiting for us to come with our broken, fragile and insufficient mortal selves. He’s eager to take it all away. He’s anticipating our mortal surrender to his immortal supremacy.
God is always anticipating our mortal surrender to his immortal supremacy.
God is not going to judge us, or pierce a crown of blame on our heads like people do, or tell us we deserve to hurt. No. He’s going to soothe our souls and hearts with his unconditional Love(only if we’re willing to let him), and he’ll remind us that the reason he sent his son to the world to die was so we didn’t have to keep living in the dark grave of our pasts. Like me, I hope he reminds you that his son was dead three days in the Grave just so we no longer had to hide many days in the empty Graves of our past. But that means that you’ll have to draw near to him because you can’t hear him or let him heal you if you’re throwing yourself a pity party shower. We have to be willing to talk to God like the insufficient children that we are. We have to be willing to believe that he cares about us – about our hurts.
Like me, I hope he reminds you that his son was dead three days in the Grave just so we no longer had to hide many days in the empty Graves of our past.
We have to be willing to accept his ways. We have to be willing to listen to his voice. We have to be willing to follow his instructions. We have to be willing to accept God’s forgiveness, then forgive ourselves or the people who have caused a hurt. We have to be willing to bade these hurts goodbye and good riddance once and for all. We have to be willing to renew our minds and start afresh. We have to be willing to enjoy the present and walk the hell out of the past. We have to be willing to become truly happy people.
We have to FACE our Healing, and start Living out our Purpose.
Photos by – Apollos studios and modeled by my Beautiful friend, Oge Ezedozie😘
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